Showing posts with label expats. Show all posts
Showing posts with label expats. Show all posts

Thursday, July 4, 2013

Exotic Paradox: Expats Blog In Saudi Arabia

The following is an excerpt from an article published in Newsline November 2012 issue. Journalist Naima Rashid writes about the three most popular expat blogs written by foreign wives to Saudis; American Bedu, Susie of Arabia and Blue Abaya. She talks about what all these blogs have in common, and how they offer a unique perspective and window into the Saudi culture.The entire article can be read on Newsline and for Blue Abaya readers here's a extract of the article and the Blue Abaya part itself.

Exotic paradox: Expats Blog in Saudi Arabia

"For several reasons, the Saudi culture is impenetrable to the outsider. An almost sacred guardianship of private space makes access to it pretty near impossible. A large part of life in Saudi Arabia takes place indoors or in metaphorical ‘chambers’ accessible only to insiders. "

"A curious axis around which are clustered three of the most interesting blogs is matrimony. Foreign wives married to Saudis have long held the banner high for cultural chronicling in the form of blogs. Their initiative created a niche in a territory that was virgin when they started, but which has since thrived. The best known among them come from cultures diametrically opposed to the Saudi culture,  namely American and Finnish. "

"These blogs go by names seeped in a charge of orientalism that comes from juxtaposing evocations of opposite cultures and to some extent, a sense of free-spiritedness and rebellion (‘American Bedu’, ‘Susie’s Big Adventure: An American woman moves to Saudi Arabia’, ‘Blue Abbaya: A Scandinavian Princess in the Magic Kingdom’). "
"...the authors, coming from Western cultures and a background in Western education, bring a natural ease of expression, documentary zest, outspokenness and an analytical bent of mind to bear upon the superset of their experiences in Saudi Arabia. Being married to Saudis, they have a direct canal to the culture they are tackling through the deep end – direct immersion. Where their clarity of observation, their willing embrace of a foreign culture, and the amusing contrasts between an Eastern and a Western culture meet, a thing of great value and beauty is created."

 "The third blog in the trio is called Blue Abbaya. Much younger than the other two, Laylah, in her early thirties,  is a Finnish nurse married to a Saudi, living in Riyadh and blogging since 2009. Susie and Carol have openly divulged their identity, but Laylah blogs with more discretion, and while her blog is all about Saudi culture through the prism of her personal experiences, she doesn’t always divulge her personal coordinates as openly."

"Her blog has a more distinct character than the other two, and her writing, detailed and diary-like. She has a very strong personality that comes across quite forcefully in her writings – witty, unforgiving in her sarcasm, sharp in her observations but aggressively positive in her conclusions. Between her spirit of forward motion, and her signature bite is the spice that marks her writing."

"Reading her blog, one traverses two regions equally mysterious to many – Finland and Saudi Arabia, and her blog pierces the mystery of both lands to offer us a window into both cultures through the eyes of somebody who embodies them both to some extent.

After surviving the tragic-comical challenge of a wedding à la Saoudienne, it’s been a mildly bumpy ride, to say the least, but her Finnish hardiness has helped her keep her feet firmly on the ground. Some unavoidable, amusing and enlightening comparisons between the Finnish and the Saudi way of life, whether they emerged unconsciously as survival tactics, or as a conscious reflection about the cultural polarity she embodies, make for some delightful traipsing for the culture vulture. 

Scandinavian ice and deserts of Arabia are physical reliefs, but like all environment, they become landscapes of the mind at some point. In ‘Blue Abbaya’, blue is the colour of the Finnish sky, and the abbaya is a cultural norm of Saudi Arabia. In its name and its nature, the blog is defined by the richly opposed but co-existing worlds that the author is part of, and the best and worst of which peppers her real and virtual space."


"In one post that went on to become a hot favourite, Laylah is choosing her make-up style for a wedding. Before she concludes upon an understated European look, she runs her readers through some popular make-up styles, naming each one with her characteristic sly wit. The list includes the poison-ivy look, the Herpes look, the raccoon look, the peacock look, the angry owl look, the Boy George look, the spider look and last but not the least, the measles look!

As a general rule, nurses are great people to gossip with in Saudi Arabia. The nature of their work and the sheer range of exposure across all social classes that they have access to in the course of a working day make them great story-tellers. Perhaps, the best stories they have to narrate are those relating to royalty and its pomp and decorum  as they have witnessed in the corridors of the VIP wings in hospitals.

 Some of Laylah’s most delicious anecdotes are about royalty and set in the King Faisal Hospital, Riyadh, where she works. ‘The Princess and the Pimple’ is a tale about a spoilt princess who wakes up one morning with a pimple on her face and throws a tantrum, as a result, her pimple is treated with more protocol than other human lives. 

‘The Royal Morgue’ is an unforgettable Chekhovian sketch of what happens when a member of the royal family is deceased in a hospital, the image of princesses in expensive abbayas and smelling of high-priced attars accumulating like ravens around the body of the deceased and the nurses hiding in the corridors and making themselves scarce for fear of offending anyone from the royal family.

Unsurprisingly then, the most colourful  yarns in Saudi Arabia, the most informative as well as the most entertaining, and the ones that rip open its cultural core, lie beyond the bland prose of newspapers, beyond the country’s few bookshops and television channels, along yet another diagonal axis."
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        -  Naima Rashid


Published in Newsline, November issue.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Ten Pools In Riyadh To Cool Off In This Summer!

There's no doubt that summer is here to stay. It's getting hotter by the day with recorded temperatures reaching almost 50C! Lots of women are looking for swimming pools in Riyadh that could be used by females only. There aren't many olympic sized public swimming pools out there, but a few great options are available for those looking for a refreshing and cooling day out at the pool. Whether you're searching for an indoor or outdoor pool look no further!

This is my article from June's Women's Skills Bureau Newsletter "10 Ways To Cool Off In Riyadh"
The newsletter as a whole can be downloaded here.

Top Ten Swimming Pools In Riyadh

Summer is here and temperatures are expected to raise well above +40c daily for the next three months or so. What a better way to cool off than by spending a day at the pool! Here are ten swimming pools that women can use in Riyadh.

1.       The outdoor wave pool at Diplomatic Quarters Sport Club. The DQ Sports club outdoor and indoor pools have alternating days for women and men. The outdoor wave pool area is set in a beautiful garden and has water slides, kids pools and a restaurant. Membership required.

2.      Yibreen Spa outdoor pool. Located inside this secluded luxury spa, the pool and sun tanning/lounging area is accessible for members free of charge and with a fee for non members. The café offers healthy snacks and fresh fruit juices.

3.       Riyadh Golf Club Sports Gardens pools. A green oasis in the middle of the desert, the Golf club has plenty of outdoor activities for families including the outdoor pool, children’s pool, mini-golf, basketball and others. Membership required.

4.       Al Manahil ladies spa in the Diplomatic Quarter has a large indoor pool accessible for non members and by single payment. Modest swimwear required. Swimming classes for children and adults.

5.       Al Luthan women’s only Hotel and Spa has a beautiful indoor pool and also offers aqua fitness classes.

6.       Al Aghar Equestrian Club inside the Diplomatic Quarters has a private pool area that can be rented by the hour. Separate ladies/men’s days, Fridays are family day.

7.       Dirab Golf & Country Club located 44km outside Riyadh is a wonderful haven outside the hustle and bustle of the city. Two outdoor pools and also horseback riding available for ladies, abaya free zone.

8.       Al Multaka Ladies Center. In addition to an indoor pool,  AlMultaka offers a spa and beauty salon, library, shops and a restaurant.

9.       Many of the private hospitals in Riyadh have women only pools and offer classes with female instructors. Check out Obaid, Hammadi and Specialized Medical Center pools.

10.   For family pool time or pool parties, the area around exit 8 and 9 is lined with istiraha’s (small private resort) that can be rented per day for the whole family to enjoy or many families can rent one and share the costs. Fantasy Land, Yamama Resort and Splash Waterpark have aquaparks open to children only but they also offer private villas with small pools.
P.S For men I would recommend the Intercontinental hotel outdoor pools (men and children only) and Ritz Carlton indoor pool (men only)

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Expats Guide: Janadriyah Cultural Heritage Festival With children

Janadriyah 2013 is just around the corner so I thought of sharing with Blue Abaya readers the guide I wrote for the Women's Skills Bureau March Newsletter. The festival will begin on the 3rd of April continuing until the 19th April 2013. The first few days are men only and the King will inaugurate the festival with a spectacular opening ceremony Operetta on the 3rd April. The opening festivities will be televised live.

Family days are beginning from Monday 8th April. The festival area is open all day but schools visit during the mornings and to public they officially open the gates at 4pm (or after Asr prayer) and it's open everyday until midnight. The gates sometimes open early so it's worth going well ahead of time because of the bad traffic and parking. The entrance is free for all.

Guide To Janadriyah Cultural Heritage Festival With Children
 The annually held Cultural Heritage festival Janadriyah is definitely one of the most important cultural events of the year and a must visit for all expats in the Kingdom of Saudi-Arabia. This is when you can immerse yourself in the Saudi culture, enjoying what the real Saudi-Arabia and the friendly hospitable Saudi people have to offer.
This year festival starts on the 3rd of April and continues for two weeks full of Saudi traditions and unforgettable experiences for the expats and locals alike. There is something for everyone at Janadriyah! Here are some tips on fun activities with kids and where to find the best places at the Janadriyah village for families. The vast festival area may seem daunting for first time visitors, there seems to be endless places to see and it might be hard to choose which areas to go to.
The best time to visit for families with children would be on the weekdays and it’s best to arrive as early as possible. Officially the festival starts at 4 pm, but on many occasions they will open the gates much earlier. There are plenty of vendors outside the gates selling everything from toys, silly hats and wigs, sunglasses, veil decorations, Saudi foods, flags and more. With luck it’s possible to find Saudi ladies who will make quick beautiful henna tattoos for 15 sr on visitor’s hands.


On weekends the festival area will get very crowded and the parking lot is disorganized and can get chaotic. Enter from the front gate, which is directly opposite the highway. Upon entering the area (admission is free for everyone) take a map from the info stands; they will have English language maps too. Staff will provide small children with wrist bands that have the parent’s mobile number on them in case they were to get lost in the area. It’s recommended to bring a stroller because the area very large and takes many hours to walk through.
It’s best to start out by exploring the Jizan and Farasan area directly to the left from the gates.  A large white wall marks the entrance. The Jizan dancers are fun to watch, their dance is very lively and the beat is fast and gripping. Children will love the show, the traditional fishing boats and there’s a camel running a sesame seed mill. From this area you can buy beautifully scented jasmine flower necklaces and flower hair bands for the kids (and why not adults too).

Continuing on, the next recommended areas are the Qassim with the high tower and the surrounding marketplace.  For kids there’s camel riding and from here it’s recommended to try out the Saudi foods. A must try are the Kleja breads made by the Bedouin women in an oven on site. Various kinds of delicious mammoul (date filled biscuits) can also be bought here.

To the left from behind the Qassim tower the road leads to the farm area where kids can see all the typical farm animals in Saudi Arabia. Continuing on forward from the farm area visitors will reach the other main road. At the end of this road are the Equestrian club areas where the statuesque Arabian horses can be seen.
The main road leads to the Medina region on the right hand side which can be recognized by the golden dome. 


It’s recommended to try out the foods here and see the men dancing the famous “spinning” dances. This area also has a nice bazaar for buying souvenirs.
Another area children will enjoy is the marketplace opposite Medina, here you can go on donkey carriage rides, climb on a huge fishing boat, see boa snakes and join in on the Saudi traditional children’s games.
If you’re interested in seeing the hunting falcons and for a chance to hold one, visit the Eastern Province section where you’ll also find a replica of the Qara caves and lots of Saudi craftsmen. The architecture is beautiful inside and outside of the houses.



For the girls and moms it’s worth visiting the women’s only hall where you can experience traditional Saudi women’s attire, music and dances. For the boys and dads there’s the Saudi National Guard exhibit next to the Makkah area where you can see tankers, helicopters other military equipment.
Janadriyah is the best way to take a quick course on the Saudi culture and customs and makes for a nice family outing.

Click here to download the WSB March newsletter full of useful info!



Saturday, March 16, 2013

Why I Love The Janadriyah Cultural Heritage Festival

It's almost time for the annual Janadriyah Cultural Heritage festival, organized in 2013 for the 28th time. I for one have been waiting for this festival for months. I truly love going to Janadriyah and have been there every year since I came to Saudi in 2008 and some years I went on several days. The festival has surely changed a lot over the years but some things remain the same like the cheerful atmosphere.
Check out my Top Ten Things To Do At Janadriyah Festival here: http://blueabaya.blogspot.com/2013/04/top-ten-things-to-do-at-janadriyah.html
The feeling of joy and happiness is simply contagious. One cannot go to this festival and leave with a sour face. Unless of course...
You happen to be a moral cop. Because boy does this festival have some loose morals!

That was a joke btw. I need to clarify to all the close minded negative nellies with no sense of humor whatsoever out there that I know stalk this blog just to find anything at all to complain about because their lives are so damn boring and uneventful. The rest of us feel sorry for you, now move along please!

Back to the topic, I think every expat in Saudi should visit this festival, not just to see the beautiful architecture, heritage and traditions of the various provinces, but to experience what the Saudi people are truly made of. This is such a unique chance to interact with Saudis from all over the Kingdom and embrace their culture. 

Time to take a cultural bath!

Trust me you will be surprised if you thought Saudis are rigid and don't know (or want to) have fun. Boy are you in for a shocker! At Janadriyah you will see Saudi women men and children laughing and having fun in public some dressed in funny outfits or wearing wigs,  hats and over sized glasses. Many women will be wearing beautiful decorations on their veils and men can be seen donning flowers in their hair! Who would have thought?



At Janadriyah village you will find the young and the old, the city people and the desert dwellers, the professors and the farmers, Sunni and Shii'a, craftsmen and women, Saudis of all backgrounds, colors and regions come together. Millions of Saudis flock here every year.
Janadriyah unites the Saudis.

That is what the true magic of this festival is all about. The national pride, the unity and the sense of togetherness just can't be experienced quite the same as it can be at Janadriyah.

Janadriyah is like a social experiment. An experiment that exceeds all expectations. An experiment which should be an eye opener to many. Saudis are fully capable of behaving in normal decent ways despite the mixing going on. I never once was harassed or approached in a negative way there, EVER. And let me tell you that I've visited this festival a total of 13 times with many friends of different races who share the same positive experiences. Everyone was genuinely welcomed and shown respect. No leering, flirting or passing of mobile numbers anywhere. So how is that for proof that allowing normal human interactions in the public sphere of Saudi Arabia does not result in chaos and havoc.

To some Saudis at the festival, a foreign visitor is almost as much of an attraction as the actual festival. Saudi women will come up to foreign women (especially blondes I guess) for a photo, or they will secretly film us with their cameras and phones. They might be giggling, in this instance not in a bad way but a genuinely curious and friendly way. The women might be shy to approach you so I would recommend foreigners take the initiative even if you don't know any Arabic. You will not regret it. They will want to welcome you to their country, know where you're from and what you think of the Kingdom. Some might want to show you around and explain the things going on.
Notice the "secret" photographers in the background :) We later talked to them and took lots of group photos.
"Welcome to Saudi-Arabia" is the most common phrase a foreigner will hear at Janadriyah. I encourage everyone to embrace the culture, get to know the Saudis. Laugh with them, dance with them, joke around with them. You will soon realize that they are just like anyone, like you and me. Don't be afraid to make the connection. You will remember these times for the rest of your life as the best moments of your time in Saudi Arabia.
Now I've been around a lot of expats here and I've heard over and over how it's impossible to meet Saudis or talk to them and how Saudis are such "insert negative adjective here" people. If you never met any let alone spoke to them, how can you even make a statement like that? There are rotten apples in every country and culture. Don't be that rotten apple of YOUR culture by thinking that Saudis are all bad.
Don't judge the whole nation just because when you went to the shopping mall a woman cut you in line or a man didn't open the door for you. Accept that there are differences in our cultures. Now I for one can say this is not always easy. I do rant, I do complain sometimes. But you know what guys? I still keep an open positive mind. I refuse to become bitter, hateful and isolate myself from the culture I happen to live in. Some of us are here voluntarily because we were interested in the culture and the country, many came just for the money, some followed their spouses and were thus "forced" to come.

Get out of your bubbles and compounds and visit Janadriyah with an OPEN heart and mind is my advice to you :) Leave your prejudices at home. Drop your guard. Open your mind.

The following is a photo collage from previous experiences from the festival over the years. Please DO NOT use these images without my permission. These are some of my most cherished memories and moments from the Magic Kingdom and I am sharing them with you to spread the joy and bridge the cultural gaps out there!



































 Notice the bloke on the left? Definitely not a Saudi but he has joined the Makkah region wedding parade. Looks like he really embraced the culture!

Enjoy the pictures guys and if you like this post and Blue Abaya, please take a short moment to give some blog love for me by voting at the Weblog Awards. Blue Abaya is a finalist in the Best Asian weblog category. I know you can spare me a few moments and give a little something back as gratitude for sharing all the information, photos and time that I devout to you dear readers of Blue Abaya!

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P.P.S. The woman appearing in the photos is a good friend of mine who has worked the past five years in KSA and truly loves the Saudi culture!

P.P.P.S. Janadriyah festival starts on the 3rd of April and continues for 2 weeks onward.