tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post8923411776603640610..comments2023-06-10T10:25:57.118+03:00Comments on Blue Abaya: Sharing Husbands is Caring!Laylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-77688879585450407472012-11-19T22:18:15.846+03:002012-11-19T22:18:15.846+03:00I completely agree. Some people don't mind hu...I completely agree. Some people don't mind hurting others and doing it to someone else, but if it happens to their close family members they sing a different tune. This is how it is: If you don't want it to happen to you, don't do it to others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-44066657668244737542012-10-12T11:50:04.843+03:002012-10-12T11:50:04.843+03:00there can be nothing in an Islamic marriage contra...there can be nothing in an Islamic marriage contract that contradicts the Quran. Probably just gave herself the right to a divorce if he took another wife...wonder how the exact wording went....:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-62089179657823581412012-09-09T02:35:13.285+03:002012-09-09T02:35:13.285+03:00Just after reading some of your posts, I love you ...Just after reading some of your posts, I love you now <3 the way you explain things is amazing Masha'Allah. Sister just wanted to say that Islam is very reasonable and beautiful. Because of ignorant people don't turn away from it. :) I cannot share my husband with anyone, can't even bear the idea of sharing. Not all woman are so big hearted. It is only recommended in certain Saadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08141641244546425682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-83575041417451600812012-08-29T22:44:52.023+03:002012-08-29T22:44:52.023+03:00Hi Neli! Thanks for the link and quote my dear, an...Hi Neli! Thanks for the link and quote my dear, and nice blog!!Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-54622739430861962092012-08-29T16:41:18.147+03:002012-08-29T16:41:18.147+03:00selam dear laylah, i quoted tiny part of this post...selam dear laylah, i quoted tiny part of this post in my blog post :D but i linked this post as well, hope that's not a problem :) Neli Saracenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11374363560668754987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-45256008745089926082012-06-24T22:11:57.835+03:002012-06-24T22:11:57.835+03:00Have you ever seen an episode of the American real...Have you ever seen an episode of the American reality TV show "Sisterwives" about an American man and his four wives? Or read the book or blog "Love Times Three" by the Dargers, another American Polygamist family? <br />Here's the link: http://lovetimesthree.com/Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-64235802548987712902012-06-18T08:49:39.442+03:002012-06-18T08:49:39.442+03:00Well almost all men are for polygamy and I think w...Well almost all men are for polygamy and I think we all know why its definitely not the reasons that religious men claim it is, I've never heard of any rich man marrying a widow as a second wife and a great example would be the rulers in the Arab world or Islamic in general and this is also applicable to the ordinary man who get married again because of lust period only a very small number Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-4741961366681112902012-01-31T02:12:39.671+03:002012-01-31T02:12:39.671+03:00Bigstick-thank you for this excellent link, have b...Bigstick-thank you for this excellent link, have been reading through the whole study all day! Fascinating albeit not so surprising findings :)Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-53812943721019489992012-01-30T02:50:31.079+03:002012-01-30T02:50:31.079+03:00Here is some interesting infomation on sex ratio i...Here is some interesting infomation on sex ratio in Saudia Arabia. It seems men out number the women by a large margin. <br /><br />http://www.indexmundi.com/saudi_arabia/sex_ratio.html<br /><br />Here are some problems that have been found with polgamy. <br /><br />http://www.physorg.com/news/2012-01-monogamy-major-social-problems-polygamist.html<br /><br />Hidden atrocities doesn't help bigstickhttp://voicesofthefaceless.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-32744147200161997002012-01-29T23:50:40.532+03:002012-01-29T23:50:40.532+03:00Not a defender of Polygeny, but a Defender of Marr...Not a defender of Polygeny, but a Defender of Marriage<br /><br />Allaah allows a man and only a man to engage in "Polygeny" not polygamy. Â Polygamy is forbidden, because the wife would have more than one husband. See definitions below:<br /><br />Polygamy (polys gamos, translated literally in Late Greek as "often married")is a marriage which includes more than two partners. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-63046641996035683902012-01-29T11:27:55.758+03:002012-01-29T11:27:55.758+03:00I came across with following acticle: http://rstb....I came across with following acticle: http://rstb.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/367/1589/657Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-87836072310802623122012-01-26T05:28:13.793+03:002012-01-26T05:28:13.793+03:00PLEASE all commenters use a nickname for identific...PLEASE all commenters use a nickname for identification, there are four anonymous comments here in a row!Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-76456470646431944922012-01-26T05:26:15.633+03:002012-01-26T05:26:15.633+03:00Anon Jan 24-They marry young wives as consequent o...Anon Jan 24-They marry young wives as consequent ones. I NEVER heard of anyone marrying an older woman. Oops sorry I am few years older than my husband LOL<br />You're right marriage is more than SeX but Saudi men don't always see it that way. I guess taking on a younger teenaged wife for a middle aged man is almost always mainly for the sex and maybe more kids.It's certainly not for Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-89597289474088402502012-01-25T21:31:20.145+03:002012-01-25T21:31:20.145+03:00I dont agree with your post about this subject. I ...I dont agree with your post about this subject. I am a second wife to my husband and i get along with his first wife very good. The children are like from one family and are not traumatized at all, they have one person more who loves them like their parents.<br /><br />In fact im from Scandinavia also and now living in Egypt.<br /><br />Like Prophet Mohammed PBUH said, that you do your best to beAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-47976923087569295432012-01-24T21:54:17.416+03:002012-01-24T21:54:17.416+03:00I love your article Layla... Tell me, do Saudi'...I love your article Layla... Tell me, do Saudi's every married older, widowed women to take care of them? Or do they typically just marry younger? I argue that women's sexual desire is just as strong and poligamy is sort of like trading in one's old car for a newer model. Marriage is more than sex. It has a spiritual, emotional element. Speaking of sex, I think women's desireAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-27784128577774742922012-01-11T00:18:35.287+03:002012-01-11T00:18:35.287+03:00There is Kazakh smart joke about this. There were ...There is Kazakh smart joke about this. There were two friends: one married to one and another had two wives. Who had two all the time was telling another one: "try it, you don't know what you're missing, I have two beautiful women around me and enjoy it". So second guy listened to his friend and married another one. On the next day he had to go at night to the mosque because Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-68735654292991344942012-01-10T23:56:35.538+03:002012-01-10T23:56:35.538+03:00Thank you for your post! I thought that in our gen...Thank you for your post! I thought that in our generation who is under 30 it doesn't happen anymore, but guess what... My best friend is very sweet Saudi girl who is happily married to Saudi man in the same age. But they're married for couple years and they still don't have children even they tried. And her mother in law "advices" as a "solution" to take second Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-1778393714569424012012-01-04T01:06:21.714+03:002012-01-04T01:06:21.714+03:00God made Adam n Eve right? Not Adam, eve,christy,k...God made Adam n Eve right? Not Adam, eve,christy,kim,ashley. 1 man 1 women 2 b together. Ladies value yourselves. Theres a reason y the wives fight bc its not a good thing. yall are very pretty idk y yall let them have more than 1 wife n brain wash yall.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-77134827433058049122011-11-24T02:57:56.477+03:002011-11-24T02:57:56.477+03:00Alice-nice to see you around and thanks for your c...Alice-nice to see you around and thanks for your comment! Yes I agree that's what all women should wish upon other women :)Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-37290779991551224042011-11-24T02:55:34.497+03:002011-11-24T02:55:34.497+03:00gotcha-thanks for your comments. I do have a legal...gotcha-thanks for your comments. I do have a legally bound "owner" arranged in case of worst case scenario.Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-86524112176644900322011-11-24T01:34:24.065+03:002011-11-24T01:34:24.065+03:00Sandy-I hope so too :)
I also didn't realize h...Sandy-I hope so too :)<br />I also didn't realize how western women who have already married their Saudis already and just apply for the approval would have a hard time. In that case putting the clause in would most likely be MUCH more difficult and I could imagine a judge refusing to sign such papers. <br />The ones we went to were extremely difficult to deal with and I can see a woman bend Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-64228144286897745562011-11-23T18:07:12.582+03:002011-11-23T18:07:12.582+03:00A very interesting post and I like your way of thi...A very interesting post and I like your way of thinking. I like the comments saying it's a women's God given right to be the only wife and that we should not put man's selfish desires first. Also good point that we should desire for our sisters in Islam what we desire for ourselves - a good monogamous marriage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-79054920534142121922011-11-22T19:47:49.842+03:002011-11-22T19:47:49.842+03:00I have to say that for western women marrying a mu...I have to say that for western women marrying a muslim men and then going back to his country and having children is risky. It is definitely a great way to imprison women in a polygmous marriage by threatening to take away their right to every see the children. Of course it sounds as though Saudi has a system in place that keeps women in a constant state of fear. If I were you I would think Gotchanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-63966990489288192852011-11-22T15:24:14.377+03:002011-11-22T15:24:14.377+03:00That's interesting Laylah. Ultimately I hope ...That's interesting Laylah. Ultimately I hope you never find out if it works! The main thing is your husband is clear on your wishes and agrees to them. It made me realize though that for foreign wives most are married OUTSIDE the Kingdom- so that is why they would have a harder time enforcing any conditions in their contract, as well as foreign women generally won't pursue divorce Sandynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3100788116354675609.post-33417260014168567832011-11-22T12:52:59.730+03:002011-11-22T12:52:59.730+03:00Sandy-we have that clause in our Saudi based marri...Sandy-we have that clause in our Saudi based marriage contract, although the first judge refused to put it in and the second one gave me a hard time, in the end he agreed.Laylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09517032571160920075noreply@blogger.com