In KSA it is obligatory for everyone, even the non-Muslims and western women to wear it in public places. Actually I recently found out that there is no specific law that stipulates it is a MUST. And for sure it doesn't say anywhere it has to be BLACK.
The Saudi religious authorities have made the abaya compulsory for all women and the muttawa (religious police) will enforce this on all women. One interpretation of Islam is forced on everyone.
Yet the Quran states: "there is no compulsion in religion".
I really hate being part of the masses. Everyone looks the same here! In Riyadh most women cover their faces too, so these women are literally like black faceless blobs blending into the mass (no offense anyone!).
I want to feel more like an individual. I want to show other women its ok to be different, there's nothing to be afraid of. Women can show their personality with how they dress, and still be modest. There's nothing wrong with showing some personality!
I hope slowly change will come to Saudi and women won't be so worried about what others and the muttawa will think..I don't believe this is what God intended. That all women (and men) should look the same and cover their true selves! Back in the days of Prophet Mohammed men and women used colorful attire and the Prophet's wife Aisha wore red and yellow garments. Only very recently has black become the standard color of dress for women.
Also I think its a form of control from the Saudi government. It forces people into the same mold, it rules out individualism and change. There is only one accepted way of presenting yourself in public here in KSA. If you don't go by that people will see you as someone "gone astray", unreligious, western-influenced or even crazy!I hope slowly change will come to Saudi and women won't be so worried about what others and the muttawa will think..I don't believe this is what God intended. That all women (and men) should look the same and cover their true selves! Back in the days of Prophet Mohammed men and women used colorful attire and the Prophet's wife Aisha wore red and yellow garments. Only very recently has black become the standard color of dress for women.
My abaya is blue also because I feel like I'm different, I don't fit in any ready made category. I am Finnish and proud of my roots, but Saudi-Arabia feels like my home. I am a Muslim yet I would also describe myself as a feminist, which most people wrongly think don't go together. I'm also a person that does not accept everything that is thrown out there and believe all that is said in media. I always question and research things and think with my own brain. Reasoning and individual thoughts are often frowned upon by fellow Muslims which is why I feel I don't belong sometimes.
I am shy, but I have strong opinions and I am passionate in things I believe in..I'm not afraid to jump a bungy jumps, dive with whales and sharks or skydive, but you won't find me first in line for public appearances!
Maybe you could call me some sort of a rebel too. Wearing a blue abaya is my way of speaking out for women's rights in Saudi.











Hello Layla!
ReplyDeletethat is very brave !! wearing a blue abaya..! I kindda like that!
it takes alot of courage to do such a thing..coz you know its risky and those mutwaa could've got u in trouble!
I like your attitude.. but be careful
Omaima Al Najjar
Hi!
ReplyDeletethanks, yes I will be careful and inshallah I wont get into trouble with muttawa :)
Kudos to you for wearing a blue abayah! There is nothing in Islam that says we must always wear a black abayah. Have you had any stares by the people when you're out and about in Riyadh?
ReplyDeleteAlso are you married to a Saudi?
ReplyDeleteyes I do get quite a few stares, more from women than from men though, alhamdulillah I am not trying to attract mens attention but to make a statement :)
ReplyDeleteUsually younger girls will whisper and point at me and giggle, older women will just stare.. wonder what is going on in their minds!
Masha'Allah you are very brave. I hate to draw attention to myself so couldn't fathom wearing any color abayah except black here.
ReplyDeletei say GOOD FOR YOU! be different! who said there was anything wrong w/ that??
ReplyDeleteSalam Layla, can you put your picture with this colour of abaya? Is it really such light like a colour of your blog?
ReplyDeleteGreetings from Poland
Nadia
Salaam Nadia!
ReplyDeleteI wouldnt dare wear a light blue abaya in Riyadh-instant jail sentence!
Its the color of my banner, and now I have added a picture of it too :)
Thank you very much. It's nice colour. What about Saudi women? Do they comment your style, or it's popular>
ReplyDeleteNadya
Assalamu alaikum,
ReplyDeleteI like this word from ur article **I really hate being part of the masses.** Your way of explaining the event in all the article are very nice.Now i starts reading all your post and i expect your post in future also.insha allah
I would like though transmit (reschedule) on moment and lose in this crowd :)
ReplyDeleteAssalamualaikum Layla. I love your attitude and your courage mashaAllah. May Allah bless you. I had one question. In one of the comments, you said that you would immediately be put to jail if you wore a light blue abaya in Riyadh. Why is that?
ReplyDeleteI don't think a very light color abaya would be viewed as ok by the religious police so they most likely could arrest you for it :(
ReplyDeleteHello Laylah, I loved your blog!!!
ReplyDeleteAfter reading this article, one question came to my mind: Would it be allowed (for Afgan women, for example)to wear Burkha in Saudi Arabia? In eneral, burkhas are light blue in color...
Thanks and best regards,
Iva
Hello Iva!
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by glad you liked it!
That's a very good question about the afghani burkha!I would say wearing it in Jeddah medina or Mecca would be fine but Riyadh I'm not sure really!perhaps they would get stopped and advised to change into a black one.
I enjoy your blog!
ReplyDeleteI'm an American about to move next month to Riyadh to teach English. I'm no stranger to wearing an abaya and hijab, having previously lived in Yemen (until things got too heated this past March). My head scarves are rather colorful and were fine for Yemen; however, I haven't found any reference to wearing colorful and/or patterned hijabs---that is, anything other than a solid black---in Riyadh. Please enlighten me.
Shukran, akhti!
Hi there!
ReplyDeleteYou will have no problems wearing your colorful hijabs in Riyadh or elsewhere in KSA.
I wear different color ones all the time! Its mostly the Saudi women that actually wear the black ones, other arab nationalities will often have different colors :)
I think thats great of you to breakaway from the norms of society and wear a blue abbaya! :D
ReplyDelete:) I always thought all women in Niqab looked exactly alike, that was until I started wearing Niqab.
ReplyDeleteThen I realised how one's individuality really shines through.
I live in Bahrain, so there are plenty of Niqabis here as well.
The first thing I realised was how my brothers would be able to point me out in a crowd. It was because they knew me so well, that regardless of is I was ninja now, they could see the clear difference in me and other women.
:)
What can I say, your beautiful whether black or blue - as long as it's an abaya we're talking about. I would wear a pink abaya, and risk arrest. Or maybe no one would see me, because I would blend into the rest of the pink scenery, especially in front of a pink house or mosque...
ReplyDeleteWhat can I say, your beautiful whether black or blue - as long as it's an abaya we're talking about. I would wear a pink abaya, and risk arrest. Or maybe no one would see me, because I would blend into the rest of the pink scenery, especially in front of a pink house or mosque...
ReplyDeleteSalam Laylah, interesting post :) I lived in Riyadh all my life up until the point I got married and moved to Jeddah. Here I got used to wearing colored abayas ,, so I have a few in different colors and I wear them in Riyadh when I visit my family. More interesting: I actually made those abayas in Riyadh lol ,, I admit the guy in the shop wasn't thrilled with the idea but he still made them. My family keeps telling me I shouldn't wear them in riyadh, but honestly I never found it problematic :) I love colored abayas :D
ReplyDeleteSalam Layla ,, Interesting post ,, I live in Riyadh all my life up to the point I got married and moved to Jeddah where I got used to wearing the colored abayas. I still wear them when I visit my family in Riyadh and although they keep telling me I'll get in trouble I honestly never did alhamdulillaah and never found it an issue :) ironically, I actually had those abayas made in Riyadh LOL
ReplyDeleteReem Philby-good for you for being different :) Hey can I ask where you got those abayas made, and where you got the fabrics from?
ReplyDeleteI was googling of shops at Jeddah to get a new Abaya for my beautiful wife ,interesting to have a new colored one instead of the black.. And i was lucky to read what you wrote about it.. so would you please help me finding any good places selling colored abayas here in Jeddah..Thx
ReplyDeleteSeriously it is absurd that women have to look like bats.
ReplyDeleteHow ironic. The woman nearest to the camera has a bag that says "boring boring boring boring boring boring" on it while your blog was about the flatness of an entire society wearing the same thing.
ReplyDeletecoincidence? ;)
Also, Layla, I noticed your quote that Muslims sometimes feel like thinking with our own brains is frowned upon and that's why you feel like you don't belong.
ReplyDeleteOrganized religion is hard for us free thinkers. I have an uncomfortable time belonging to such an institutionalized lifestyle at times too. However, I've learned that the only way that I can find peace in an organized religion is to stop seeing it as being that. People have made Islam organized (not only that, but you are literally surrounded by muttawa and individuals that squash personal interpretation of religious texts). It is really hard for me to even get along with the Muslim community because I don't see the world through the same eyes that they do. Like you, I am a Western convert. I come from an entirely different world. The only way Allah fits into my life is when I stopped applying cultural standards to him, stopped feeling like I couldn't have any freedom of thought in interpreting my religion MY WAY, and started making Allah my own personal friend. If Islam truly is the true religion, it needs to fit in with everyone--not just people who live a uniquely Saudi/Arab lifestyle. I also, as a human being, have a brain that Allah gave to me. Why give me a brain if He didn't intend for me to use it?
Proud Muslimah-I hadn't noticed the "boring" bag! That is such a funny coincidence! Thank you for being sharp eyed and noticing it :)
DeleteI do sometimes feel squashed and suffocated by "advice" coming from hundred directions in what a "real" or "good" Muslim is supposed to look like, act like or say.
Especially on this blog, but also in real life. Some people I thought were friends cut contact with me just because we disagreed on a religious ruling or whatever. Seriously people are that shallow. Often the holiest of all are like this.
It draws me further from the community and I prefer to keep to myself.
"Why did he give me a brain if He didn't intend for me to use it?"
Exactly!
It must get tiring having to wear black all the time. That blue abaya is beautiful, I really love the beads on the sleeve. I got a lilac colored one from a friend when she was living in Saudi for a little while and I'm adding some pretty trim to the sleeves.
ReplyDeleteVariety is the spice of life.
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